Love comes in many forms. If the person we love does something we think he or she does that to hurt us. Or maybe we don’t think that, but we are hurt by the way the persons acts. But if we look deeply, we will see that the person loves you, but maybe does that in another way than we expect, so we are hurt by the actions of the person. Will the person you love hurt you on purpose? I think not. I think the way we love is difficult to read, and because we often think different, we do not understand.
For example, when I fight with my husband about, I don’t no the dishes, the fight is very often not about the dishes, but about the fact I think he is telling by not doing the dishes he does not care about things that are important to me. That is not what he wants to say to me by doing that, that is what the voice in my head tells me if you listen very, very good. That is what truely happens. When I know I can say: Darling I feel that the things are important to me are not important to you and I feel hurt by that. (That is very different than: why didn’t you do dishes?! I asked you, you said yes and now you didn’t do it!)